There is simply a large group of people in business, politics and show-business who have made helping or doing good a part of PR -u, shaping image, fighting for power, attention, acceptance or respect. Is that bad or good?
Imagine a large board with image photographs of a 100 people. As many as 99 of them smile, only 1 individual remains in the photograph clearly upset, irritated, even unpleasant. Do you know who our eyes will capture immediately? No substance who we are, what qualities we have
the nature of what we do in life.
Almost all observer, despite the apparent advantage of affirmative faces and emotions, will immediately announcement the negative. Why? That's atavism. safety issue, a symbolic signal to escape. Signal that we may be in danger. Potentially, the individual who manifests clearly negative emotions can be a threat to us. And we request to be peculiarly delicate about her.
I remember how the psychology class impressed us all. It seems to be inconceivable. What do you mean? On 99 affirmative and smiling faces only 1 "negative". And she's gonna win our attention? This is all-powerful physiology, biology, atavism, nevertheless we specify it. However, further, more serious questions follow. Does that mean good loses? That affirmative emotions are pushed by negative ones?
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The good is ruined. fact or false? In certain environments or spaces, specified as social media, you can get that impression. As we know, good is frequently cast out by evil, but it was already in the Bible. This has been the case since the dawn, it is truly not a fresh phenomenon, although older generations – for hundreds of years this script and these dialogues have been repeated – they concern younger generations and contemporary times. besides in the context of good and evil. "The erstwhile good had meaning, meaning, value." "Today good has lost its power, dimension, power." These voices are average at the moment. but it's always been like this. inactive many of us believe that – as Czesław Niemen sang
“There is more people of good will.”
Good is simply a commodity that can be utilized not only for voters but even for power. People who have made noble gestures or organized beautiful actions are part of the memory of society or a peculiar group, gaining the gratitude of the recipients or voters. Artists and celebrities engage in various charitable activities besides to have alleged Facebook and respect.
Not everyone! Actresses who ride the “green border”, portrayed in a shocking way in the movie Agnieszka Holland, frequently did so secretly. A large problem, not just helping. On the another hand, there is simply a large group of people in politics, business and show business who have made helping or doing good an component of PR, shaping image, fighting for power, attention, acceptance or respect. A game worth a candle!
Monika Drozynska, embroidery on canvas Helping Relationships
A fewer years ago, I asked a very well-known and respected Polish athlete, with global achievements, who has an organized household life and large success in the account, for help. Earlier, we met on the occasion of an interview for 1 of the luxury monthlies for women. Chat
It came out fantastic, the authorization was done without any problems, I kept a warm memory of this cooperation. The character of the interview told, among others, that he was willing to give charity, help, support, in a good way utilizing his fame. After any time, a reader came to me: her husband, who fought a deadly disease, had a large dream. He wanted to meet this athlete. She asked me to aid her contact her. possibly this gathering will consequence in a man gaining more strength to fight disease, fresh energy to life, which will affect the treatment process and his relation with his family. I wrote to an athlete without hesitation. He agreed to arrange specified a gathering with a sick man. He asked for the dates and location to be determined with his assistant. Great. I didn't wait a second. I called.
The assistant almost immediately asked me where the account of the athlete gathering with the sick man would be found. I was quiet for a while. Wait, wait... So this is expected to be a media show where we show that an athlete has a large heart and supports a sick fan in the fight for his life? I answered the assistant.
The fact is, there are no plans to print the material from this gathering now, and I don't think that's the point. The assistant seemed disappointed. She said we'd call you soon. She never spoke again. So is the athlete. And I'm inactive sorry this gathering didn't happen. I don't know how that man feels. I believe he managed to win the fight against the disease.
Plastic paper
If an athlete's gathering with a fan were to be published, readers or viewers would most likely admire the athlete that he finds time and strength to support others unselfishly. And here's the key word, without which you can't tell about good, but besides about evil. Selflessness. Plastic paper
Okay.
Many years ago I interviewed 1 of the richest Poles. The conversation was about a private matter, that's what we agreed. And in fact, during the interview, this man raised the threads I asked for, or even brought in fresh ones. Great. erstwhile I got the text after the authorization, I didn't admit it. It wasn't the interview we did that cold morning in Mokotov. It was a completely different conversation.
So what happened to the first version of the text, faithfully written and edited by me? My interlocutor, an highly wealthy Pole, deleted 3 quarters of the text and added dozens of fresh paragraphs, dozens of fresh sentences, no of which fell during the conversation. And these fresh passages, what a surprise, were good. The 1 that the millionaire spreads, as he solemnly provided in the fresh version of our conversation he created. The 1 I couldn't recognize. This man created an immaculate image of himself. Robin Hood, Prince of Fairy Tales, who distributes his wealth to others, supports those in need.
on many levels. He spreads good, believes in good, and does good. The text after the authorization did so much – alternatively of 2 12 pages – that it would have been adequate for almost a separate edition of the magazine. No 1 wanted that amount of honey and sugar, but the publication of this version of the text would not be consistent with my journalistic DNA or editorial. I cut the material to the first form, introduced any fresh threads, and sent the text to print. Businessman didn't complain. We never made conversation again. In a planet of perfect doing good is that we work for ourselves, but besides for
others. Without waiting for results, for alleged Facebooks, for praise, awards or designation of others.
Good sounds best in silence. But the problem is complex due to the fact that the more good we talk about, the more we announce the request to aid refugees, children from pathological families, women experiencing home violence, the better for those who request it. And how do you find yourself here? How do you reconcile that? Let unselfishness and sincere request be the key. False in doing good is truly easy to sense. Even through filters on Instagram.
Magdalena Kuszewska – journalist, editor. She has published in: “The Warsaw Voice”, “Gazeta Wyborcza”, “Mrs”, “Your Style”, “Politics”, “Vogue”, “National Geographic Traveler”, “Poland. The Times”, “Esquire”, “Gali”, and besides on Onet.pl portal. Author of the “Europe for Shopping”, co-author of the books “What Hurts the Relationship”, “Ginecologists. Secrets of Cabinets”, “Talks of Responsibility. Volume 4.
In times of plague, “Generations” (2023). It operates in the social movement of the Era of fresh Women.
